Monthly Archives: October 2016
We Are What We’ve Been Waiting For
By Annie Fischer, LCSW
In focusing we tend to our inner relationships through deep listening. In my previous writing I spoke about how focusing calls for our abiding presence as the needed ingredient to help heal wounded places inside. Focusers call our repetitive, ineffective, painful behavior “stopped processes.” In first learning how to bring presence to these stopped processes inside, we cobble together our biggest and boldest self that is ready to listen in the same way we would be ready to listen with an open heart to a hurting friend even after a long day at work.
Beautifully and quite brilliantly the qualities that these places inside need in order to heal, in other words the very thing that is missing for them, are qualities we don’t normally possess or have lost connection with long ago. In order to heal, these places inside can require of us infinite patience, stout present attention, open-hearted listening, respect, fierce loyalty or tenderness. Through earnest effort and a natural unfolding of love we recover these lost qualities that simultaneously grow us and heal them. Healing occurs as a synthesis between what seems wounded and the wounded healer.
Annie Fischer, LCSW
Rita Bennett, PhD
When clients call to schedule an appointment with me, I frequently find that they are feeling exhausted by their struggles, but they are not without hope. Scheduling an appointment takes courage and a strong desire for a more satisfying life. I have helped my clients through stages of healing within my practice: Stage 1 is the initial “venting” stage; Stage 2 involves “psychic leaning” on the therapist; Stage 3 involves the client feeling a “boost up” in mood and activity; The final stage is when the client is able to “move forward” in their life from a place where they once felt stuck.
The question that I ask of all my clients is: Do you believe your life is pre-determined to be on a particular path or do you believe that through the efforts of your free will you can determine for yourself the direction you want your life to go?
Congratulations! Today is your day. You’re off to Great Places! You’re off and away! You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go.
You’ll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step, step with care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.
Dr. Seuss from Oh, the Places You’ll Go